Few contrasts between American and Mexican cultures are more striking than the way in which each views and treats its senior citizens.
America’s seniors are often cloistered in assisted living facilities or nursing homes far from family and friends.
Mexico’s oldest – los ancianos – seem more often vibrant alive and interactive, and are notably present in its public life nowhere more than in its villages.
It’s hard not to see the paradox in these contrasts.
American has a far superior capacity to maintain its seniors’ quality of life, and has taken great pains to make transportation and public use facilities accessible to its disabled.
It has also segregated its seniors from the social mainstream on a wide scale.
The paradox is a reflection of the two nations’ cultural perspectives.
In Mexico, ‘family’ trumps ‘generation gap’.
Mexicans are far more likely to respect and cherish their oldest generation and revere it for its wisdom and life experience.
Many among the current crop of los ancianos are the children of those who participated in the century-old Mexican Revolution.
They’ve witnessed and lived history as it’s unfolded through the greatest social transformation in the nation’s history.
American media’s fixation on youth marginalizes its oldest save for the rich, powerful, or otherwise famous.
The result is that America’s aged seem more often perceived by their offspring as an unpleasant reminders that they, too, will in due time grow unfashionably old and less socially relevant.
Particularly in Mexican village life, los ancianos remain connected to lifetime friends and many live within their extended families.
There’s a lot to suggest that this lifelong connectedness affords them greater comfort in their advanced age.
Americans move further and more often from their place of birth than do those living in any other First World nation, with the result that they more often live far from the oldest among their living relatives.
Affordable senior care facilities make it far easier for American families to live separately from their aged relatives.
Maybe there’s also something also to be said for lifestyle when it comes to keeping Mexico’s ancianos animated and mobile.
Economic necessity and a thinly stretched social safety net keep many Mexicans working into advanced age, but the work seems to leave many no worse for wear and sometimes even to hold disability at bay.
A lifetime of meals simply and sparingly prepared has left many lean wiry.
It’s not unusual to see these ancianos navigate dauntingly high curbs and cobblestone streets to remain a daily village presence on its sidewalks, in its public spaces, and at its public events.
In the end, though, nothing can better capture the special place that Mexico’s ancianos occupy in its social fabric than their images.
what a beautiful post
really enjoy the story in the faces . I recognize some of the people.
Ya like my kids would walk me through Costco???
Lovely post, and photos told the story as well. In my family, I was able to remain close to my Mom and Dad before passing as they were close even though in residential assisted care facilities. Here, I do think it has something to do with the primary religion being Catholicism. It was one of the first observations I had here – the presence of all the generations together everywhere we went. And generally, you see the utmost respect being shown to all ages among those generations. We could learn from that up Norte…
Your observation is appreciated!
Well written and a nice post. However, living in a small town in the U.S. I see the elderly all about me everyday, and this is not only true of my small town but of many others throughout the U.S. I also see the elderly in the Wal*Marts, the older communities in the large cities, etc. Your post is nice, but I don’t agree with all of your observation. There are also elements of climate, income and availability that effect the choices available.
Your point is well taken that small towns – regardless of which side of the border – have lots in common on this issue.
Having just come back to Florida after three weeks “trying out” Ajijic to see if I wish to spend the rest of my life there, I really appreciate this article and the wonderful photos of Mexico’s very visible elderly citizens. At almost 90, I was out on the streets every day in one of the friendliest places I could ever have imagined–and this applied to both the expats from many different places of origin and the warmhearted and gracious Mexicans of all ages who were born in this magical, sunny and beautiful place. Is there anywhere else in the world these days where young people will stand up and offer their seats on buses to older people?
I have had choices to make especially difficult at my age. i have outlived my long-time circle of friends in my own age group and my son passed away two years ago. I could go back to Ohio where I have younger siblings, but also where I was confined to the house for days at a time due to ice and snow.. I can no longer drive. I could go into an an independent living facility here in Florida where such places pop up daily and everywhere but where I know no one. The third choice is to pack up and move To Ajijic where I already have new friends of assorted ages, backgrounds, and interests living contentedly. I am still physically and mentally active and aside from visual and hearing issues, my general health is excellent,. What’s to lose?
So I am in process of starting out on a great adventure. I have already contacted the Mexican consulate and Strom Movers, and am getting ready to move myself and my little dog, Rufus, to Mexico.
See you in the town square.
Joanna
Thanks so much for your inspiring comments, Joanna. Looking forward to seeing you in Ajijic once you get resettled!
Joanna,
My daughter has your name! Did you say you are 90?? I am thinking of retiring early, at 62-in three years, and am considering moving to Lake Chapala area too. For some of the same reasons you list in your post. People here (Pacific Northwest) are not that overly friendly and I think it has something to do with the constant rain 8 months or more of the year. They shiver and run to their cars or inside a building . . . America in general has become a different place than it was only a few years ago. I am a law enf officer and the numbers of young heroin and meth addicts I see in a day is staggering. People losing their jobs, homes and the fragmentation of families, it is shocking.
I think sunshine is a large factor in creating an environment where people smile rather than scowl. I have traveled the west coast of the US and am well aware of the rainy weather patterns. I’ve known people who moved away because they missed the sun so much. Full spectrum lighting in the house sometimes acts as a mood elevator where there is too little sunshine. I lived in Maine and owned and operated my own little bookstore for a few years in a charming little college town. Because I had a business that attracted interesting people, I made wonderful friends, which always has much to do with emotional well-being anywhere. However, a common saying is that Maine has eleven months of summer and only one month of summer–a slight exaggeration–but it’s true that along about March, faces get pretty long and spirits sagged. Depression was almost tangible. .
I have done a bit of traveling in the US as well as outside the country and have lived in four different states and driven or visited in all the others besides Alaska, Minnesota, Wisconsin and North Dakota. I have my own personal lists of the best, most charming, most friendly,most unique, or most beautiful places I’ve seen. That list includes Camden, Maine, Santa Fe, New Mexico, Santa Barbara, California, Key West, Florida and others. Ajijic is at the very top of the list. It has it all.
Joanna
I’m only 74, so I’ll wait til I get old to comment.
You’re not old until you feel old!